What Is Fetish Play/BDSM
What is Fetish Play/BDSM?
These are the variations of what BDSM typically stands for.
B [Bondage] D [Discipline OR Dominance/Domination] S [Sadism] M [Masochism]
B&D [Bondage & Discipline] D&s [Dominance & Submission] S&M [Sadomasochism]
There are more variations of BDSM than there are different types of sex toys. The variations above are what BDSM denotes in the classical sense, definitions that are usually accepted within the community. To explore and engage in BDSM is to explore and engage in sexual erotica that often involves role-playing fantasies, and aspects of Dominance and submission.
"BDSM is a state of mind" - Bo Blaze (Blaze 2)*
BDSM involves a mental element as much as it involves a physical one. For example, elements of Dominance and submission that are involved in D/s and M/s relationships aren't as simple as reading a definition and understanding how to create a scene [a scene is a setting where BDSM takes place]. Dominance is an attitude, an energy that is embodied, a skill that is developed with patience over time. Submission cannot be forced or taken from someone; submission must be earned and is given as a great honor.
Great ways to practice earning submission, Dominance or any BDSM related mentality in our Live Fetish Cam rooms are to exercise integrity, be respectful and most importantly tip your favorite Kinky models! Don't ever demand any special fetish service for free. These models have worked tediously to develop their kinky skills and should not be expected to give their services away for nothing. BDSM and Fetish play is not about commanding or forcing your lover to succumb to your will.
"That is a prisoner, not a willing participant." - Bo Blaze (Blaze 132)*
BDSM and fetish play are about trust, respect, and exploring sexual taboos in a fun & consensual manner. The power exchange, being able to trust another person enough to give them partial or total power over you, is part of what makes BDSM and fetish play so enthralling.
Fetish play takes you a little deeper down the rabbit hole of sexual erotica. Fetish play involves sexual arousal in the form of an activity, item or situation that is traditionally considered non-sexual.
Popular Fetish examples include:
- JOI (Jerk Off Instruction)
- Public Humiliation
- Paddling/Spanking/Whips
- Teasing
- Findom
- Latex/Leather
- Rope Play
- Sugar Daddy
- Stockings/Pantyhose
- Role-Play/Costumes
Generally, you have a sexual fetish when you require some non-sexual (sometimes taboo) element to reach sexual gratification. For instance, a lot of people require thinking about or touching feet in order to find sexual release, these people are considered to have a foot fetish. Foot fetishism is one of the most popular, if not the most popular fetishes.
Classic fetishes, like foot fetishism, can have many different variations, while other fetishes are just emerging for the first time. There are no limits to the types of fetishes that exist or are being created; however there are limits to what type of fetish play is acceptable in the fetish play/BDSM community.
Figuring out if you're into BDSM or deciding which fetishes you have (if any) can sometimes be complicated. Our Fetish and BDSM cam rooms provide a catalyst to help make that process as simple as possible for you. Reading through Fetish Forums, fetish social networks and researching fetish information can often be hard to decipher, because some definitions/descriptions just don't do BDSM and Fetish play justice. To really understand the mental and transcendental aspects of BDSM and Fetish play, you should engulf yourself mentally. This can sometimes be difficult when exploring alone. This is where we come in! BDSM and Fetish models are our specialty! We have over 127 Fetish categories and 745 Fetish models eager to help you explore your kinky fantasies.
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*Bo Blaze quotes taken from the book 50 Shades of Curious: BDSM for Beginners
